BDSM Basic Terms


The time and attention given after a BDSM scene or session to ensure the emotional and physical well-being of the participants.


A form of role-playing where participants take on different age roles, often with a dominant partner as the "adult" and a submissive partner as the "child" or "teenager." This can involve various aspects of childish behavior, such as language, clothing, and actions.


Stands for Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & Submission, Sadism & Masochism. A variety of sexual practices and behaviors often performed as role-plays between partners.


The practice of restraining a person with ropes, chains, handcuffs, or other means.

Breath Play:

A BDSM practice where breathing is controlled or restricted to produce erotic arousal. This can be done through choking, asphyxiation games, or blocking airways and requires extreme caution as it can be dangerous.


The person who takes the passive or submissive role in a BDSM situation.

Chastity Play:

A form of BDSM where one partner controls the sexual arousal of the other partner, often through the use of a chastity belt or device to restrict access to the genitals.


A form of BDSM or fetish where one partner derives sexual arousal from seeing their partner with someone else or knowing that their partner is engaging in sexual acts with another person. Often practiced with an element of humiliation related to infidelity.


The person who takes the dominant role in a BDSM relationship or scene.


A category of BDSM practices that involve extreme or risky activities outside traditional boundaries. This can range from piercings and branding to intense pain play, requiring high levels of trust, communication, and safety.


A form of BDSM where electrical stimulation is used for sexual arousal or to produce pain stimuli. This can be done using specialized devices like electrostimulation units or homemade setups that deliver electric pulses.


Abbreviations for Female Dominant and Male Dominant, respectively, referring to dominant women and men.


A tool made of leather strips used for whipping or caressing.

Humiliation Play:

A form of BDSM where a person derives pleasure from experiencing or performing humiliating acts or statements. This can be verbal, physical, or emotional and is often practiced in a controlled and consensual environment.

Knife Play:

A form of BDSM where one partner uses a knife or blade to arouse or stimulate the other partner. This can involve gently tracing the skin or cutting clothing to create an adrenaline rush.


The pleasure of experiencing pain or humiliation.


A form of bondage where a person's body is completely wrapped in materials such as foil, latex, or plaster to restrict movement and create a feeling of confinement or helplessness.

Orgasm Control:

A BDSM practice where one partner controls the other's orgasms. This can involve withholding or permitting orgasms, using delay techniques, or employing chastity devices.


A type of role-playing where a person takes on the role of a pet, such as a dog, cat, or horse. The dominant partner assumes the role of owner or trainer, controlling the behavior and actions of the "pet."

RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink):

An alternative principle in the BDSM community stating that all participants should be aware of the risks but still act consensually.


The pleasure of inflicting pain or humiliation on others.

Safe, Sane, Consensual (SSC):

A principle in the BDSM community stating that all activities should be safe, sane, and consensual.


A pre-agreed word or signal used by any person in a BDSM situation to indicate that their limits have been reached or exceeded and the activity must stop.


The practice of hitting a partner on the buttocks, often with the hand or a paddle.


Short for Submissive. The person who takes the submissive role in a BDSM relationship or scene.


The person who takes the dominant or active role in a BDSM situation.

TPE (Total Power Exchange):

A form of BDSM relationship where the power dynamics are fully and permanently handed over to one partner. In a TPE relationship, the dominant partner has complete control over the submissive partner, both within and outside BDSM sessions.

Wax Play:

A BDSM practice where hot wax is dripped onto a partner's body to provide sensory stimulation and possibly slight pain. It requires caution to avoid burns and can offer a sensual experience.

These are some basic terms. There is, of course, much more to discover in the world of BDSM!#